Chanukah 2020: Night Four

Fourth night of Chanukah. I’m a little behind on things because my thoughts have been all over the place, and despite this being my favorite holiday, there’s an underlying sadness mixed in this year. If you follow me on social media, you may have read my thoughts on specific matters, or not.

Tonight, I’d like to offer up my prayers to Chabad of Bluegrass after last night’s assault on a congregation member in Lexington, Kentucky. I do NOT want to see anything else happen during a Menorah lighting or anything else involving synagogues. If you’re not Jewish, let us have our holiday in peace, the same way we let you have yours in peace. By the way, Chanukah is NOT “a Jewish Christmas”.

In the face of anti-Semitism, we must unite, regardless of faith, and fight back against hate. I wasn’t raised to be a hateful person, so my response mechanism is different than that of others. I was, however, always encouraged to fight back against anything I didn’t deem just.

I cannot, in good conscience, accept violence against people based on their faith, the color of their skin, their politics, or sexual preference. That’s not who I am. If you’re a good person with a good heart, I am not going to say anything to you. I will accept you as you are. However, I do get annoyed when people make incorrect assumptions about the kind of person I am and go behind my back with their opinions. If you have something you want to share, just say it to me personally because if a fifth party is repeating it, I am going to find out why you felt so comfortable talking shit. I am not afraid of confrontation. In fact, I encourage it.

Do not harm, but take no shit.

The First Night Of Chanukah


If one more person wishes me a “Merry Christmas”, I will hurt them. It’s very simple; I’m JEWISH. I feel like I’ve been over this a million times, but today I damn near lost my temper, so I’m going to reiterate this, but for the love of G-d, don’t make me do it twice.

Yes, believe it or not, there are religions that do not celebrate the same holidays that you may celebrate. There are religions that are much older. This is basic kindergarten knowledge, yet every single person I’ve come across for over a month now has made an assumption I don’t fucking like. I’ve spent weeks holding it in. I’ve been polite, I’ve been nondescript in my “Enjoy your holiday!” greetings to others, I sent out cards with genuine, handwritten messages to express how I feel about people in a loving fashion, but at this point, I’m just plain fed up.

Tonight just so happens to be the first night of Chanukah. So, while the Jews are celebrating the miracle of oil lasting for eight nights and surviving taking back our temple centuries ago (By the way, we’re still surviving and we are a religious minority.), and we do this in very individual ways, there is literally zero discussion among us of trees, lights on our homes, Santa, Jesus, etc. To learn more, here’s some info that you might find prudent in case you consider wishing me a “Merry Christmas” ever again:  CHANUKAH 

It’s one thing if you don’t know I’m Jewish, but I make myself pretty clear. I openly discuss Jewish holidays, Israel, traditions, etc. I am also Wiccan, and I openly discuss those holidays, too. But if you go through my feed, you will see zero mention of holidays pertaining to any other faith. There’s a valid reason for that, and to ensure I don’t insult anyone, I’ll keep my feelings to myself.

I will always be respectful of those who show me respect and kindness, but damn, I am SO tired of correcting people. I know they mean well, really, but it drives me insane, so I’m putting my foot down. You can call me names (I’m sure plenty of people will.), but ultimately, respect the simple fact that I don’t celebrate Christmas. Wish me a Happy Chanukah (there are many different spellings out there, so it’s easy to confuse one with another) with the same genuineness as “Merry Christmas”. The big difference between your religion and mine is that Jews don’t believe in Jesus. There are other things we don’t believe as well, but that’s really the major one. There’s no lack of faith in G-d, we believe, just differently than you do. Also, we don’t go around trying to convert you. We’re pretty “live and let live”.

So tonight, I’d like to thank the people who honored me with cards & gifts. I genuinely appreciate the generosity and love.

Here’s hoping I never have to mention this again, because if I do, I’m re-posting an article I wrote a few years ago about what I do on Christmas Day. Frankly, I might post it tomorrow for shits and giggles.

To everyone celebrating whatever they believe in tonight; may peace and love be at the core of all you do. Blessed Be.

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Morning Humor


A close friend sent this to me this morning and I cracked up.

Last night was, officially, the first night of Chanukah. I use the spelling I was raised with and I don’t like any other spelling because they all look wrong to me.

Alas, it was a long day and I might upload some photos of the feast I prepared, but if I don’t, I really don’t think anyone will care.