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Is There A Time Limit On Grieving The Loss Of Your Health?

Link Miss Poison Grief/Grieving, Health , , ,

https://themighty.com/2016/12/grief-timeline-getting-sick/

I think it’s safe to say no on this one. There’s no time limit. It can remain a shock to the system for quite some time.

I tried really hard to have a good day today, but towards the end I couldn’t walk properly and I was struggling with my vision and breathing. I couldn’t think. I came home and looked in the mirror for some visible sign that I was well and truly “done for”, but came away dejected because I see what everyone else sees; someone who visibly looks healthy. It’s really frustrating. 😦

The Psychological Impact Of Having To Ask For Help

Link Miss Poison Chronic Fatigue Syndrome , , , , ,

https://themighty.com/2017/05/mecfs-psychological-impact-asking-for-help-illness/

I think this is so important for people to read and understand. Last weekend I was asked why I was pushing myself so hard. Here’s the answer: No one else knows precisely how I do things, and no one else knows how difficult it is for me to get these things done. They don’t have to live with my pain for a second. I’d prefer to blame myself, and only myself, if there is a missing item or a mistake made (I made a big mistake a few weeks ago and had to return two items that I would normally NEVER screw up, but all it took for me was stress, distraction, and a single moment of feeling overwhelmed.).

I may have horrible days, like today, when I did have to ask for help, but there are many 10+ pain level days when I force myself to grocery shop and run errands because no one else will ever be as thorough as I am. Yes, it bothers me, but I don’t have much choice. When I DO ask for help, people act like I just asked for ten million dollars, so I don’t accept help any more unless someone offers and I feel the offer is genuine.