Articles
Is There A Time Limit On Grieving The Loss Of Your Health?
https://themighty.com/2016/12/grief-timeline-getting-sick/
I think it’s safe to say no on this one. There’s no time limit. It can remain a shock to the system for quite some time.
I tried really hard to have a good day today, but towards the end I couldn’t walk properly and I was struggling with my vision and breathing. I couldn’t think. I came home and looked in the mirror for some visible sign that I was well and truly “done for”, but came away dejected because I see what everyone else sees; someone who visibly looks healthy. It’s really frustrating. 😦
When You’re Too Sick To Go To The Doctor
https://themighty.com/2017/05/being-too-sick-to-see-doctor/
She’s right. A large majority of people would never understand this, but I’m in the percentage who understands, without further explanation.
Hearing ‘If You Need Anything, I’m Here’ As Someone With Chronic Illness
https://themighty.com/2017/05/how-to-help-sick-friend-not-in-hospital/
People say this to me often, but they’re about as emotionally present as a flea. They don’t call, they don’t check in, they don’t ask if there’s something I CAN do and agree to join me, etc. It’s always about them. It’s like being invisible, just like my illness. I don’t exist, unless someone wants or needs something, and suddenly I’m this amazing, brilliant person. I didn’t think it was possible to roll my eyes so much, but it IS, and it’s because I find it offensive and rude.
Maybe it’s because I am a writer, but I believe words have immense power. Use them wisely, and please, check in on people. Just because they’re not hospitalized doesn’t mean they’re not isolated and/or hurting deeply. I spend 95% of my time completely alone. I’m not even sure why I have a phone most days. It would be nice if people weren’t so self-centered, but since they remain as they are, I’ve decided to remain who I am.
