It’s Friday, Let’s Celebrate!

We know where you live Mommy, and it is not beneath us to display our utter cuteness for you to gain food, treats, or head scratches.
We know where you live Mommy, and it is not beneath us to display our utter cuteness for you to gain food, treats, or head scratches.

I have no idea why Friday, Saturday, and Sunday have become my favorite days of the week, but lately, I just can’t handle week days. Does anyone else feel like this?

I’ve had a rough week. I’ve been in a lot of pain and have required way more sleep than any single person my age should need (Still young, still fabulous. 😛 ). I work and then I look at the time, realizing that I’ve done a lot in short bursts of time, but that now that I’ve gotten work done, it’s time to close my eyes “for a little while”. The next thing I know, the day is over. I wake up from that brief little “nap”, check the time, and my cat and kitten are wrapped around each other. Apparently some kind of love fest goes on when I’m down for the count. I almost always have to be in bed and half asleep or completely out of it before they go into “love mode”.

Passive, sweet cat. Troublesome, but incredibly loving kitten. (You can see their photos on my About page.) They’re good for each other and they’re good for me, because without them, I wouldn’t get out of bed at all. There are many mornings when they’re both pacing around me, marking my face with theirs (kitten does this), to encourage me to go downstairs and give them breakfast. If that doesn’t work, they start bringing toys into the bed. I have no idea where either of them are, but I know that if the food is not delivered in a timely fashion, they will try to curry my favor with gifts. I can’t tell you how many times they’ve both placed gifts in my bathtub as a reminder, as if I’ve ever forgotten to feed them.

I’m VERY lucky, they’re relatively well-behaved and sweet. They’ve got attitude, but mostly, they know that they are loved and safe. When I’m in a terrible amount of pain, one or both of them will get into bed as soon as I’m comfortable and either lay by my feet or by my head, and they do not move until they see me calm down and fall asleep, and even then, I still wake up with them close by. There is a sweetness to that which makes me emotional at times. My cat is a lot less openly loving than my kitten, but I have a bond with both of them and I see how they call for me and come to visit me when I’m working. Basically, I get treated like one of them. Perhaps this is why they often place toys under my butt and then try to bite me awake. Sassy’s been doing this since she was a baby, and at 19 months, it wasn’t that long ago that she was the ruler of the roost and tiny, aggressively shoving me awake and demanding food constantly. Now that there are two little beasts, I have them on a schedule. She’s no longer interested in most games (my little one wants to play, but also self-entertains), but is happy to bite my feet or grab my ankle for a nip if she’s feel froggy.

Now that Miss Sass has a constant playmate, she’s no longer ripping me to shreds and biting me. Her breed isn’t known for a lot of verbal communication, so she spent ten months aggressively hurting me several times a day until I found her the perfect little companion. It was NOT love at first sight. It took about a week or so, and they slowly became obsessed with each other. Mini is also incredibly obsessed with me, but she’s still a baby.

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What else is going on? Oh, yes! Because I’m a total hypocrite (And honest enough to admit it.), I am back on Facebook. My original account is still up in the air. Facebook and I have exchanged countless e-mails, and nothing has been worked out, so I waited a while and established a new account. I intentionally linked it to my cell phone which somehow authenticates that I am indeed a “real person” and not the countless things I was accused of in all of their e-mails back in January. If you want to pal around with me, let me know and I will send you my new hypocritical info.

Speaking of which, Facebook has changed quite a bit since I was gone. I am pretty sure someone peed in everyone’s coffee this morning because for every 30 people who liked something I said, I had one person go ballistic. To avoid future problems, I’m keeping a low profile. However, when subjects are open for discussion and you don’t know a person, I think it’s crucial not to call them “OCD” or “rude”, especially since you’re clearly not understanding the context. I was called both this morning by two absolute idiots. Mind you, gutless wonders like to hide behind their computers and spew horse shit.

My first thought was “Go fuck yourself!”, but I decided not to lower myself to their levels. Second, throwing obsessive compulsive disorder around as some sort of joke or insult is incredibly rude, and when one is not a healthcare professional, one has no right to say that to someone they do not know and have never met. That actually IS rude. Disagreeing with someone isn’t rude, we’re all entitled to do so.

I’m a supportive writer. I’m going to be honest, polite, and concise because that’s how I am. I’ve NEVER been rude on Facebook or any form of social media that I am aware of. If anyone has ever read my work and deemed me rude, then that was YOUR perception and not the facts. I’m not Ms. Sweetness & Light, I do not throw rainbows at you, nor do I shoot sugared unicorns when one deserves venom.

There is a fine line between sharing thoughts and being a bitch. I don’t bring out the bitch side unless it is warranted and I don’t do it on Facebook because I have a professional reputation to uphold. If I wouldn’t say something to your face, then I certainly wouldn’t say it behind your back or in a public forum. That’s not how I operate.

People like to throw my astrological sign into play in their “defense” quite a bit, but the truth is, I’m a pretty controlled Scorpio female. I might not always have been, but I learned a long time ago to get the negative aspects under control or they would control me. Lesson learned, and once broken of those habits, I did not return to them.

“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” That’s a load of shit. Words can hurt, they do hurt, and people throw them out there like it’s no big deal. I’m known for my “say anything” policy, but there ARE things I absolutely won’t say because I have morals, dignity, manners, self-respect, and boundaries. Some things are so below the belt that you simply don’t go there. You can think them, but then you must let them go because that kind of negativity breeds more negativity, and it’s unhealthy.

More and more, people are offended by anything and everything, but they care little for who THEY might offend. They have no manners or coping mechanisms for difference of opinion or basic relationship skills. Junior high school drama wasn’t cute in junior high school, and I won’t tolerate it as an adult. By all means, disagree with me. That’s fine. If you don’t know the context in which I mean something, don’t assume, ask. Judge not lest ye be judged.

Overall, I’m glad to have the account for my cousins and the few real friends I have, and for specific things that I’ve discussed here many times, but outside of that, I realize that I don’t miss it and that it’s a terrible waste of time. Who knew I’d grow to love Twitter?! By the way, thank you Lillian for suggesting it, and for clearly being a friend to me when others are full of crap (Link to her blog is attached to her name.). You go away for less than two months and you actually find out who your REAL friends & family are, both on and off social media. How utterly pathetic. True colors are shining bright and a lot of people are chicken-shit yellow. C’est la vie.

Also, there is a brand new blog, started by one of my best friends, that I am going to be interviewed for. I will make sure the link goes up ASAP.

And on that note, I hope you all have a lovely weekend. If you’re an NCAA fan, I hope you’re cheering for my team tonight in the Sweet 16. 🙂 GO DUKE!

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7 thoughts on “It’s Friday, Let’s Celebrate!

    • Thank you, that’s such a lovely compliment. It quite possibly made my day.

      Unfortunately when they made me, they broke the mold. They also beat the hell out of the mold maker. 😉

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  1. That’s a great pic of your cats 😀
    Rory is my constant companion – wherever I go in the house, she’s never very far away.
    Oh and FB – can’t stand it anymore. People think I am being antisocial, but actually, I think it’s FB that is, because it prevents real actual discourse between people. I mean, why bother to phone someone or pop round for a visit when you can just peer at them on screen, and if they don’t visit FB to be peered at, then they get forgotten…or deemed antisocial O_o

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    • I have a lot of photos of the two of them where one has a paw thrown across the other, or they’re wrapped around each other, which is so cute. Considering I brought in a tiny kitten to a newly adult cat and said “Here’s your sister!”, she took it pretty well. She really needed a playmate that could keep up with her. I can’t entertain one on a constant basis, it tires me out terribly. Now that they’re both adjusted, they each come to me on their own for attention, playtime, or affection. I don’t post their real names here, which might seem kind of silly, but I actually find myself saying “Espresso Bean” and “Mini” all the time. It’s all about the tone I use when I talk to them.

      FB causes people to basically stalk a friend’s page for tidbits into their lives. Not out of true interest, but because they’re usually not talking to the other person, so it makes them feel better to read the other person’s posts. When people tell me they have high school friends on there from 30 years ago, it makes me ill. Unless that person is a genuine friend, I find it really weird.

      I never post anything even remotely personal on it and only my close friends can see the things I’d want to share.

      People are so aggressive and nasty to one another. No one is allowed to have an opinion that differs from the “group-think” mentality.

      Unfortunately, almost all of my family and close friends live far away. No one is 10 minutes away. Every single person has to get on a plane and fly either a few hundred miles, several thousand miles, or across an entire ocean. However, they all prefer to e-mail or call and not use FB as their sole source of “What’s going on in Lisa’s life?” It’s rough, but it is what it is. People have to plan their visits months or a year in advance, which I understand. Not everyone can just pop on by, and I’m actually okay with that because I hate having unwanted guests. I am anti-social, but only when I choose to be. My close friends know that I don’t forget them, whether they’re on FB or not. It takes a minute, maybe two, to send someone an e-mail or an e-card and let them know you’re thinking of them. It’s not rocket science. No one is THAT busy that they don’t have time for a simple act of social grace.

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      • Awww, they sound great 🙂 My daughter is away at the moment, and her cat usually disdains everyone else but her and her fiance, but he’s been coming to me for a fuss a lot, which is really nice, especially as he’s been sleeping on my bed for a couple of months now LOL
        I am in the same boat, actually. The only family I need or want live with me, but my nearest friend is 17 miles away, which might as well be hundreds of miles when neither of you have transport. We text a lot tho 😀
        But since I stopped going on FB with everything that happened last year, I have really found out who my friends are.

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        • They are great little people, yes. I think the little one is my new familiar. Perhaps Rory is yours and that is why he is always close at hand. Cats are very intuitive creatures. Well, some, not all. They definitely know who needs them though. Some are more cat-like and do not care for a lot of human interaction. They tolerate us because we feed them and give them a safe home, but they don’t always show us a lot of affection or appreciation. My cats always choose who they love in the house and once that’s settled, they have no use for anyone else.

          I have no one local, and I’m not trusting of people that approach me in a superficial manner. I spend a lot of time by myself, but I also attribute a lot of that to the Fibromyalgia. Pain takes a lot of things away with time.

          I learn who my friends are every single day. I am not a very tolerant person when it pertains to bullshit, and not everyone likes having someone super direct in their life. They believe they are perfect and never wrong, God help the person that points out that no one is perfect and that we are ALL wrong at times.

          People think it’s odd that I’d rather watch a movie or read a book than be around people I don’t know, but I honestly think it’s healthier to avoid the drama. I’m okay in my own skin.

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  2. I’m really glad you’re enjoying yourself on Twitter. 🙂 I didn’t think I’d like it either but am finding it a lot more enjoyable than I expected.
    I completely agree with you about how untrue the “words will never hurt me” phrase is. The thing about words is that when you express them, you can’t take it back. Once it’s out in the world, it’s out and no amount of deleting will make people forget how terrible it feels to be on the receiving end of hurtful words.
    Hope you are getting some decent rest this weekend!

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