Conditions

There is a moment when you realize that the relationship you are/were in has more conditions placed on it than you ever realized. This can easily apply to friendships as well.

If you abandon, do not expect my loyalty.

If you disrespect, do not expect my respect.

If you are genuine, don’t turn on falseness when it suits you.

If you care, then care all the time, not as a matter of convenience.

If you’re truly concerned, then do something. Don’t ask what can be done, listen and actually help.

Don’t make promises that you can’t keep.

You never know when the walls you place up against someone else might be what destroys them. It’s not healthy or wise to treat someone as lesser than you simply because they are different.

The flip side is this:

No matter what I may be going through, I will still be present for you.

If you ask, then expect honesty.

If you show me you don’t care, don’t expect me to be blind to that.

If you abandon, do not expect to be forgiven.

If you get ugly with me, please don’t expect me to eat that politely with a knife and fork.

If you isolate me, I will make certain that you know you no longer exist in my eyes.

People ask for different things in relationships and friendships, but often times when they get what they ask for, they run and hide. It’s hard for me to take someone seriously when I see that kind of behavior.

Sometimes a person’s behavior actually has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with them. However, lack of communication is usually what starts fights, hostility, anger, and resentment.

Communicate, appreciate, validate, and don’t disrespect the people in your life. If your needs change, SPEAK UP. No one is a mind reader. There are no results in sitting around bitching, whining, and complaining about something. There ARE results in communicating and letting the other person know precisely what is going on.

If you’re going to dissolve any type of relationship, have the balls to do it to a person’s face. Don’t do it via Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or text message. That’s low, and classless. Treat people the way you want to be treated. And if you cheated, do everyone involved a favor and don’t make that shit public. Isn’t it bad enough you’re a piece of shit, does the world really need to know about it too?!

I swear, I was born on the wrong planet!

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