It amazes me how different people identify different things within you. Some people have this incredible ability to truly see inside your soul, whereas others only see enough until you no longer serve a purpose in their life.
A friend recently told me I had a “beautiful light within” and later pointed out that I am a “ride or die friend”. She & I haven’t been friends long, so I found it interesting that she was able to pick up on crucial things about me so quickly.
There will always be people in your life who will look for things to pick apart. Ignore them. I’m not kidding, flick them away with your finger. They are so screwed up inside that the only way for them to feel better about themselves is to look at someone else and try to tear them down. It’s not about you, it’s about the sickness inside them. I can’t look at anyone and try to make myself feel better by over-analyzing their flaws. We are ALL flawed. No one is perfect, though I HAVE had people profess to be. All one can do is shake their head at blatant lies like that. People like that have forgotten that once you lie to yourself, it’s game over.
On occasion someone comes into your life and you connect. You feel like they’re a kindred soul and will be a part of your life forever. And then, in an eerie moment, they show you how false they are. How their friendship comes with terms and conditions that would make a credit card company proud. In that moment, it is entirely okay to change your mind and say “On second thought, NO THANK YOU.” Cut that plastic son of a bitch up with the sharpest scissor you can find, and send their falseness into the trash. You don’t need that kind of negativity in your life. They are wolves in sheep’s clothing.
I don’t respond well to passive-aggressive bullshit or ultimatums from people who are the wrongdoers playing victim. It goes all over me the wrong way. I can give a person credit for saying they’re sorry, but sometimes it truly is “too little, too late”.
Crappy people remind me who are my true friends are. They remind me why I’m not open to letting new people in. They remind me that no one has the right to hurt me, not even me.
copyright © 2015 by Lisa Marino & Blackbird Serenity LLC. ALL RIGHTS RESERVED.
Written by LISA MARINO-Molchanova 
If you’re not open to letting new people in, why am I writing this? I suppose it’s because I can fully identify with what you’re saying here. I think your blog entry was brilliantly writen, and I just want to give you credit for it. No strings attached, except for a small loan? LOL! Anyway, I have this so called friend I’ve washed my hands of… Finally… I knew him since we were both 7years old (over 50 years). And it has taken me this long to discover what lies under the mask of who this person really is! He hid it so well, that it was virtually undetectable! So yes! I agree! What whom you choose as ‘friend’ very carefully! And once again, an excellent blog!
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I think many people mask themselves for very long periods of time, much like this friend you just washed your hands of. Not everyone takes their face off or lets the mask slip until they’re overly comfortable.
People DO change with time, but oftentimes we are the ones that change and grow, but they do not. And at some point, their issues and resentment become a negativity that we simply cannot abide by.
I once thought my best friend from when I was 4 1/2 would be my best friend for LIFE. It did not work out that way. In fact, it ended on a very negative note, but I decided not to hold on to it, to let it go. Would I be choosing her as a friend today? No. Truth is, I didn’t choose her as a child, her mother chose me for her, so seen, it wasn’t really meant to be. It’s okay to grow and be yourself.
Thank you for reading and enjoying what I said. I needed to vent a little and blow off steam, I suppose.
I appreciate you taking the time to comment and share your views. Enjoy the rest of your week and keep the comments coming. 🙂
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Is our friendship over already?
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Yes Lucy, and I thought I’d write about it when nothing I said pertained to you. I want you to know I just rolled my eyes.
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Oh so that’s it then….well ummm nice knowing you…see you around
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You do realize I wasn’t talking about you, right?
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Weren’t you?
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NO!
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So are we still friends?
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Yes, are you daft?!
What sentence in there did you actually think was referring to you? I just re-read it. There’s not a single reference in there that you could possibly glean a sliver from. Do be serious.
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I was being daft with you 🙂
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I hope so!
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